Day 4 of the Self-Esteem Challenge. Let’s keep the ball rolling! Today we’re going to be discussing the important subject of toxic relationships.
We’ve probably all had to endure a toxic relationship at some point in our life. When we think of toxic relationships, we think of narcissistic abusers, people who try to manipulate you into feeling the same shame and guilt that they’re living with. However, there are also more subtle forms of toxic relationship traits. The complainers, the criticisers, the energy vampires – they are INCREDIBLY detrimental to self-esteem. They make you feel bad all the time and put a dark cloud over your head.
7 things negative people will do to you. They will…
- Demean your value
- Destroy your image
- Drive you crazy
- Rob you of your dreams
- Discredit your imagination
- Deframe your abilities
- Disbelieve your opinions
This is why negative people must be, if not eliminated from your life, then drastically minimised. They will drag you down, crush your self-esteem, and leave you miserable. SURROUND yourself with people who affirm and value you. With people who love you for who YOU are.
Take out a sheet of paper and write down the three relationships that have the most toxic effect on you. Take time to think through this. Who criticises you the most? Complains the most? Dumps their problems on you the most? Who always makes you feel like garbage? Decide today to spend less time with these people. You may not be able to cut these people out of your life, but you can certainly spend less time with them. Or if they are close family, you can approach them about how you feel.
Now write down the three most positive people in your life. Those who encourage and affirm you them most. Those who make you feel happy. Those who appreciate you the most. Resolve to spend MORE time with them. Call one of them immediately and try to set up a time to get together.
By eliminating toxic relationships and replacing them with positive ones, you’ll see a dramatic improvement in your self-esteem.